Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Article 676.. If you have such a mother-in-law....
If you have such a mother-in-law at home?
She stays at home, she cooks, she grumbles, she complains, she nags, she is not happy, she is pointing fingers and she scolds... and she is 71 years old.
Everything was well taken for, everything was well arranged, everything was in its proper place, every expenses paid for, yet you will find this mother-in-law nagging and complaining. To make things worst, she says some condemning remarks and her son was angry. What can you do?
This is a very common situation where many people feel that they cannot accept their aged parents to live together. Where is peace? Where is love? Where is this family togetherness?
Let's move forward to being happier and healthier... and bring forth sparks of joy and happiness in the family, living with parents-in-laws.
It is fun to know something. It is important to know THIS!
As a daughter-in-law, her position and influence is in such a way that she needs to solve all problems, small or just brewing. Sensing the icy, unhappy situation, she did a very wise move. She told her husband that there was nothing to be angry about. Although they have 5 children, she told him that there are 6 kids in the family. His mum is one of them. Let her nag, let her voice her emotion, she is just a kid! although she is his mum! We need to be very patient, be very considerate, be very loving and teaching or explaining instead of scolding or arguing back!
Here is what one can do:
[1] Heed not what she nags
[2] Shower her with more love
[3] Shower her with more gifts
[4] Provide her with more edible food
[5] Celebrate with her
[6] Provide her more cash
[7] Bring her for some travels
[8] Respect her
All that starts well will end well and happy. Thus it was a win/win situation where the son is happy and his mother happy too. Do not leave the aged alone and lonely at their homes or some old folks home. Be generous and peaceful at home first before giving or searching them from the society outside! All good things should start from the family!
Cheers! Nothing is impossible, learn to live with happiness and good health! Don't tell me that you have no mother...
She stays at home, she cooks, she grumbles, she complains, she nags, she is not happy, she is pointing fingers and she scolds... and she is 71 years old.
Everything was well taken for, everything was well arranged, everything was in its proper place, every expenses paid for, yet you will find this mother-in-law nagging and complaining. To make things worst, she says some condemning remarks and her son was angry. What can you do?
This is a very common situation where many people feel that they cannot accept their aged parents to live together. Where is peace? Where is love? Where is this family togetherness?
Let's move forward to being happier and healthier... and bring forth sparks of joy and happiness in the family, living with parents-in-laws.
It is fun to know something. It is important to know THIS!
As a daughter-in-law, her position and influence is in such a way that she needs to solve all problems, small or just brewing. Sensing the icy, unhappy situation, she did a very wise move. She told her husband that there was nothing to be angry about. Although they have 5 children, she told him that there are 6 kids in the family. His mum is one of them. Let her nag, let her voice her emotion, she is just a kid! although she is his mum! We need to be very patient, be very considerate, be very loving and teaching or explaining instead of scolding or arguing back!
Here is what one can do:
[1] Heed not what she nags
[2] Shower her with more love
[3] Shower her with more gifts
[4] Provide her with more edible food
[5] Celebrate with her
[6] Provide her more cash
[7] Bring her for some travels
[8] Respect her
All that starts well will end well and happy. Thus it was a win/win situation where the son is happy and his mother happy too. Do not leave the aged alone and lonely at their homes or some old folks home. Be generous and peaceful at home first before giving or searching them from the society outside! All good things should start from the family!
Cheers! Nothing is impossible, learn to live with happiness and good health! Don't tell me that you have no mother...
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Recommending another blog on my Alaska Cruise! The name of the blog is as below!
Here is another blog just on my Alaska Cruise, especially blogged for my friends. The name of my blog is http://lucyalaskacruise.blogspot.com.
Monday, June 9, 2008
Hi folks, I am now in Hong Kong airport, waiting for transit back to KL, then to Kuching and Sibu
Will soon catch up with this blog. Have been travelling to Canada and US. Just arrived from Vancouver after flying for 13 hours. Went for Alaska cruise for a week. Went sight-seeing Vancouver too.
Miss all my friends here. Missed my children too. Will be back late 9th evening.
Miss all my friends here. Missed my children too. Will be back late 9th evening.
Friday, May 23, 2008
You must not lose heart, when you are disappointed.
You must not lose heart, when you are disappointed.
Perhaps your wish itself was wrong, or its realization
would have landed you in worse situations.
Anyway, it is the will of the Lord, and he knows the best.
Disappointments and distress are like the skin of the banana,
to protect the taste and allow the sweetness to fill the fruit.
In such dire straits, let your mind dwell on the splendor
of the soul and its majesty; that will keep you alert and brave.
from a divine source
Perhaps your wish itself was wrong, or its realization
would have landed you in worse situations.
Anyway, it is the will of the Lord, and he knows the best.
Disappointments and distress are like the skin of the banana,
to protect the taste and allow the sweetness to fill the fruit.
In such dire straits, let your mind dwell on the splendor
of the soul and its majesty; that will keep you alert and brave.
from a divine source
God is in the heart of every being...
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God is the heart of every being and so,
one has to love another as one loves God;
God is residing in one's own heart and so,
there is no need to fear or despair.
How can you hate another when
the God you adore is in him too.
If you love God, you have to love man also.
from a divine source
Character of children
More than all, the character
of the children must be made strong and pure.
Give them all the confidence and courage
they need to become good, honest, self-reliant children.
It is not enough if they learn something
by which they can make a living; the manner of living
is more important than the standard of living.
from a divine source
of the children must be made strong and pure.
Give them all the confidence and courage
they need to become good, honest, self-reliant children.
It is not enough if they learn something
by which they can make a living; the manner of living
is more important than the standard of living.
from a divine source
The strength of an individual lies in character, not in the wealth one earns.
The strength of an individual lies
in character, not in the wealth one earns.
One should be prepared to face any hardship to lead a virtuous life.
The country is in dire straits due
to the absence of men and women of character.
Materialistic wealth is not what we need today.
We need to earn the wealth of virtues.
Wealth cannot confer true happiness on you.
Women should develop the wealth of virtues
and also safeguard the honour of their husbands.
Both men and women should have good character.
Without good character, all your learning will prove futile.
from a divine source
If one lacks of character, one becomes feeble in all other respects.
The happiness that one derives
from virtues is far superior to the
happiness that we get from the possession of wealth.
Unfortunately, the educated youth
are striving for wealth, physical strength, and friendship.
But all these have little value without the wealth of character.
For men or women, character is the foundation.
If one lacks character, one becomes feeble in all other respects.
People of those days strove for noble character.
They were prepared to give up their
very lives for a righteous cause.
Women strived to uphold the honour of their husbands.
from a divine source
from virtues is far superior to the
happiness that we get from the possession of wealth.
Unfortunately, the educated youth
are striving for wealth, physical strength, and friendship.
But all these have little value without the wealth of character.
For men or women, character is the foundation.
If one lacks character, one becomes feeble in all other respects.
People of those days strove for noble character.
They were prepared to give up their
very lives for a righteous cause.
Women strived to uphold the honour of their husbands.
from a divine source
What can be more meaningful then to see all friends & strangers happy and healthy?
There are actually no strangers,
just friends-to-be!
There are actually no disputes,
just misunderstandings...
No one is born evil or bad.
No one is that evil or bad.
Be generous in what you think people are.
Be generous to give them CHANCES!
They bite when hurt,
they respond when angry,
they sulk when disappointed,
they revenge when in danger!
Give all people chances to recover,
give all people chances to discover,
give all people chances to be happy,
only then all of us will be happy!
just friends-to-be!
There are actually no disputes,
just misunderstandings...
No one is born evil or bad.
No one is that evil or bad.
Be generous in what you think people are.
Be generous to give them CHANCES!
They bite when hurt,
they respond when angry,
they sulk when disappointed,
they revenge when in danger!
Give all people chances to recover,
give all people chances to discover,
give all people chances to be happy,
only then all of us will be happy!
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Self-help comes handy in facing adversities...
Not that we don’t want to help
Not that we cannot hear the cries
Not that we don’t want to help
Not that we cannot feel the distress…
Self-help comes first
Self-help comes handy
Self-help help oneself first
Self-help help one to stand on his feet…
Sympathy and compassion
People hears your anguish needs
Loving and sharing your fears
Counting and soothing your tears…
Mentally be strong
Emotionally be strong
Your body hurts that I know
Under bricks and iron rods…
It is too difficult to accept
Such a sudden blow indeed
It is too difficult to accept
Millions of deaths and handicaps…
Casualties and fatal deaths
Be one young, old, rich or poor
What a tragedy so unexplained
What a sad thing so unexpected…
No words can convey
No prayers can replace
No money can recover the lost
The hurt, the lost, the suffering, the cost…
Our hearts bleed
Our minds shaken
Our body trembled
When the unstable rocks rumbled…
In spirit and prayers
In wishes to hasten recoveries
In monetary donations
In helps rendered so far…
Everyday, fight adversities…
Everyday, be mentally stronger
Everyday, be emotionally stronger
Remember, self-help fight adversities…
Monday, May 19, 2008
LIFE have to go on... bade farewell to pain and tears... look ahead...
What will happen, will happen.
What will not, will not happen.
We are destined to be living
in this decade, and it won't change.
We cannot have anything altered
It's populace too cannot be altered.
It cannot be grown
nor be thrown away.
Life is as it is willed
Life is as it has been predestined
No two lives will meet to come together
If not as willed or predestined....
The sun will continue to shine
and light up the universe....
our earth evolving and rotating...
The only constant is change...
Treasure all the rare moments
with your loved ones, treasure
what we have in hand, treasure our family,
our health, our well-being, our everything...
life have to continue, for you and me!
Bade farewell to tears
Not like us to continue for years...
Bade farewell to misfortunes
We have to dig future fortunes...
Bade farewell to fears
Not like us to continue our tears...
Bade farewell to the earthquake
No one hears you cry even if you try...
Bade farewell to loneliness
Be embraced by gentleness...
Bade farewell to pain
Or no future wealth to gain...
Saturday, May 17, 2008
Post 667, if only one can look and search within...
Love is a feeling of peace and joy, love is doing the right thing, love is thinking of the right thing, love is being in the correct path and radiating warmth and peace. One feels the wonder of being in love, of being loved and the wonder of being able to love.
All of us delights in doing righteousness thus bringing us closer to genuine love. It matches our originality, it matches our reality, it matches our natural characteristics of being a human. We possess this purity as a babe and we contain love inside our body. Our instinct of love and sharing love is slowly being polluted as one discover the other side of darkness.
But why and how are we polluted? We definitely must remember that it is we who allow impurities to seep into our mind and body. We definitely must remember that we are given the choice to choose to either stay unpolluted or polluted.
Get a real picture of who we really are, where we come from and where we are suppose to go to...
Sunday, May 4, 2008
Post 666, Everyday we are fighting adversities... But can we win the test?
Everyday we are fighting adversities...
And can you win the test? Who isn't facing adversities of certain degrees?
The tough side of the story is to how we can manage all those situations... Adversities come in all forms unexplainable and unexpected. Adversities struck all mankind thus are we prepared to face them or fight them or be crushed under them?
Seemingly true that we fear pain, we fear the unknown, we fear misfortunes, we fear disasters, we fear death, we fear separations, we fear illnesses, we fear discomforts, we fear difficulties, we fear failure, we fear poverty, we fear silence, we fear loneliness, we fear aging, we fear hardships, we fear darkness, we fear old age, we fear handicaps, we fear disasters, earthquakes, cyclones, storms, we fear being jilted, hurt, insulted, criticized, we fear changes, we fear disputes, we fear crimes, we fear wars, we fear heights and depths... and the lists go on and on...
What have we not known? What have we not seen? What have we not heard? What have we not been told? What is the best for us? What can be the best for us? What will be the best to happen to us?
The finger comes back pointing directly to our mortal flesh and bone, our mortal feelings and emotions, our mortal mind and thoughts... that all of us definitely would agree that it is never meant to last. Our mortal body is restricted, limited and will not live forever. All of us have to accept this fact that what we have accumulated, learned, allowed in our mind are restricted to our body needs and desires only!
Yet deep inside us, we know that we are immortal, meant to live forever... yes... there is something inside our body. Here is a soul which has no life span and which is immune to pain and death and to all adversities... Our soul who lives forever and is timeless and ageless...
Thus when we have this understanding, our attention will not be on our flesh or our body. We will shift our focus to something intangible, something imperishable, something that goes beyond. It is truth and will remain truth.
Get acquainted with your real self, search within, listen inwards, meditate and understand the real you. How much time do we spend on this understanding of immortality? How much time do we spend on finding peace of mind and peace at heart? It comes along to teach us to have equanimity towards pain and joy, richness or poverty, happiness or sadness and learning to be detached instead of being attached...
It pays to understand the depths of real living, real surviving of our souls instead of our body and mind. Yes, this realization will evoke in us a new outlook of what the real picture looks like. We see with our hearts, we hear with our hearts, we think with our hearts instead of using our eyes, our ears and our mind... Remember it pays to understand our inner needs...
What will adversities play? How will adversities affect us? Why should we win this fight? Who isn't without adversities? When can we win the fight? How long can we endure them? No one can go against nature normalities and win in the long run. Yes, nature will always take its course and balance it in its own ways, be it destructive or constructive. And eventually we have no choice but to live as harmonious and as balance as one is expected to.
Lucy
Post 665, A Mother's lament! Is that your mum? Love cannot wait! Call her!
In the darkest night...
I feel your fear...
Dimmed light...
Luminuous night...
In the darkest night...
I feel your tears...
Unshed for years...
Deaf to many ears...
Love untold...
Love unfold...
She awaits...
Her kids returns...
She hopes...
She waits...
She wishes...
She wants....
To feel once more...
To clasp once more...
To embrace once more...
Her kids much more...
Too long the time...
Too long the wait...
Till hair so grey...
Till hands so wrinkled...
Yet she never gave up...
Yet she never failed counting...
Yet she never failed waiting...
Yes, she did that...
So far, yet so near...
So near, yet so far...
What has become of them?
Why not a call or a visit?
Hey... guys, is that your mum waiting?
Don't let your mum down...
Love can never wait,
so why wait? Call her!
Tell her you love her and celebrate!
Mum dearest, Happy Mother's Day, this is specially for you...
Mum dear,
No flowers nor cards can express how I feel...
No money nor gifts can express how I really feel...
No money nor gifts can express how I really feel...
Mum, I love you with my whole heart, this is real...
Mum, I love you with my whole being, this is really real...
Mummy dear,
Happy Mother's Day!
Mum dear,
No words nor songs can replace my love for you...
No promises nor kisses can replace my love for you...
Mum, I love you more than I can say...
Mum, I love you more than I can dare...
Mummy dear,
Happy Mother's Day!
But then I won't forget flowers and cards for you...
I won't forget to provide money and gifts for you...
I won't forget to sing you songs of my love for you...
I won't forget to plant and collect kisses for you...
Mummy dear,
Happy Mother's Day!Mum, I love you!
Post 659, How YOUR SPIRIT speaks about YOUR HEART!
YOUR spirit
Listen to me guys, this is the heart that lives LOVE. This is the altar of LOVE. Love is God, God is Love, thus it is God living in our heart... You cannot believe? Well, listen to me, do you often hear silent or inner voices whispering to you about what one should do or not do? Your conscience that dwells inside you is the greatest teacher in this world. Seek within! And hey, you always do things right after listening to this inner conscience from your heart. You will always feel the peace at heart after listening and doing things according to your heart. Who is inside you?
How much time have you allocated to listen to your inner voice? How much time have you allow yourself to seek within? Perhaps it is time you do so. Just learn to do nothing, relax and sit down and listen to what our heart tells us... Only then you will be amazed to hear LOVE whispering to you and only then all answers will be revealed.
Don't get busy for nothing! Heed your inner voice that calls you, that bides you to come closer, to attain a higher level of understanding and only then you will be guided towards achieving the proper path of life.
You feel great and at bliss when you find love, when you feel love, when you act in love, when you are in love, when you share love, when you understand about love, you will never be the same old you. You will feel wonderful, yes, so wonderful! We are the spark of Divinity, we are embodiments of LOVE!
Some of you won't believe because you cannot see LOVE! But can one see GOD? But you know deep inside you that there is this LOVE! And LOVE is GOD. All of us have these basic characteristics of GOD! I can assure you that when one apply these characteristics of GOD, one will feel the bliss that one cannot explain! You are actually getting closer to the answer, yes closer and be emerged in light!
Hopefully that one can really see, hear, listen with our hearts!
Listen to me guys, this is the heart that lives LOVE. This is the altar of LOVE. Love is God, God is Love, thus it is God living in our heart... You cannot believe? Well, listen to me, do you often hear silent or inner voices whispering to you about what one should do or not do? Your conscience that dwells inside you is the greatest teacher in this world. Seek within! And hey, you always do things right after listening to this inner conscience from your heart. You will always feel the peace at heart after listening and doing things according to your heart. Who is inside you?
How much time have you allocated to listen to your inner voice? How much time have you allow yourself to seek within? Perhaps it is time you do so. Just learn to do nothing, relax and sit down and listen to what our heart tells us... Only then you will be amazed to hear LOVE whispering to you and only then all answers will be revealed.
Don't get busy for nothing! Heed your inner voice that calls you, that bides you to come closer, to attain a higher level of understanding and only then you will be guided towards achieving the proper path of life.
You feel great and at bliss when you find love, when you feel love, when you act in love, when you are in love, when you share love, when you understand about love, you will never be the same old you. You will feel wonderful, yes, so wonderful! We are the spark of Divinity, we are embodiments of LOVE!
Some of you won't believe because you cannot see LOVE! But can one see GOD? But you know deep inside you that there is this LOVE! And LOVE is GOD. All of us have these basic characteristics of GOD! I can assure you that when one apply these characteristics of GOD, one will feel the bliss that one cannot explain! You are actually getting closer to the answer, yes closer and be emerged in light!
Hopefully that one can really see, hear, listen with our hearts!
How YOUR emotion speaks about YOUR HEART!
YOUR emotion
This is the place where it gives birth to all your emotions... Luckily you only need to keep good and sweet memories. Luckily you know how to use positive emotions, like love, care, kindness, tolerance, patience, goodness, helpfulness, thoughtfulness, forbearance and many others!
Negative emotions will kill me. My heart will break! My heart will bleed! My heart will ache! My heart will find no solace. My heart will die without the fuels of proper emotions! I saw many of my other heart-friends that died and froze their smiles on their lips. The death of the heart will soon lead to more other deaths. My body will be expired too.
If you want to live happier, to live healthier, remember to plant all those positive emotions inside me. Keep away the weeds of hatred and revenge. Water it with constant positive self-affirmative sayings. Feed it well with love... If your love is true, nothing else will bother you. Love is the strongest weapon that you should build into your heart!
To forgive and forget? Yes, try this. The over-stressed heart of yours will be too thankful of your right attitude. Your sleep will then be so sweet and relaxing... after you learn to forgive someone who did you wrong. The world will be so much a better place to live, believe me, delete all hatred and sadness... your heart is not going to take it any longer..
to be continued
This is the place where it gives birth to all your emotions... Luckily you only need to keep good and sweet memories. Luckily you know how to use positive emotions, like love, care, kindness, tolerance, patience, goodness, helpfulness, thoughtfulness, forbearance and many others!
Negative emotions will kill me. My heart will break! My heart will bleed! My heart will ache! My heart will find no solace. My heart will die without the fuels of proper emotions! I saw many of my other heart-friends that died and froze their smiles on their lips. The death of the heart will soon lead to more other deaths. My body will be expired too.
If you want to live happier, to live healthier, remember to plant all those positive emotions inside me. Keep away the weeds of hatred and revenge. Water it with constant positive self-affirmative sayings. Feed it well with love... If your love is true, nothing else will bother you. Love is the strongest weapon that you should build into your heart!
To forgive and forget? Yes, try this. The over-stressed heart of yours will be too thankful of your right attitude. Your sleep will then be so sweet and relaxing... after you learn to forgive someone who did you wrong. The world will be so much a better place to live, believe me, delete all hatred and sadness... your heart is not going to take it any longer..
to be continued
Post 657, How our MIND speaks about YOUR HEART!
YOUR mind...
This is the place where your will and determination lives. This is the place where you store all your knowledge, acquired or inherited. It is this heart that is born all those great qualities of life. You can have this heart to accomplish many great things too. You have this heart to do things fair and just, you have this heart to do all things right, you store peace in your heart so that you have peace of mind.
You store in your heart great virtues of life and you intend to do it proper and with discipline. You have self-control, you have the will to do things right!
to be continued..
This is the place where your will and determination lives. This is the place where you store all your knowledge, acquired or inherited. It is this heart that is born all those great qualities of life. You can have this heart to accomplish many great things too. You have this heart to do things fair and just, you have this heart to do all things right, you store peace in your heart so that you have peace of mind.
You store in your heart great virtues of life and you intend to do it proper and with discipline. You have self-control, you have the will to do things right!
to be continued..
Post 656... How YOUR body speaks about YOUR HEART!
YOUR body...
Hi, there guys, do you know that your heart is pumping your blood to be circulated all over your body? From toes to ears and to the end of every blood flow, circulating 2 and half circumference of this globe-distance every pump of your heart? Yet most of you are destroying me with stress, worries, strenuous work, drugs, contaminants, nasty fatty acids, cholesterols and even alcohol! Just imagine how ungrateful you are! Just imagine how un-understanding you are!
Ever thought of revising your diets? Stop killing me! Stop poisoning me! Stop pressuring me! Please stop or I will suffocate with blood clots, with plagues and my walls are hurting me, my muscles aching hard! I beg you to give me a break! My arteries might be blocked, might be stuck bad. I need to survive so that you can survive! I need to work so that you too can work! I need to flow so that you can live...
I need to be fed with CoQ 10, protein, anti-oxidants and some trace vitamins and minerals. I need to be exercised regularly, I need no drugs nor medicines... I demand enough rest, oxygen and my relevant nutrients or 'We' will shrink and die together!
to be continued...
Hi, there guys, do you know that your heart is pumping your blood to be circulated all over your body? From toes to ears and to the end of every blood flow, circulating 2 and half circumference of this globe-distance every pump of your heart? Yet most of you are destroying me with stress, worries, strenuous work, drugs, contaminants, nasty fatty acids, cholesterols and even alcohol! Just imagine how ungrateful you are! Just imagine how un-understanding you are!
Ever thought of revising your diets? Stop killing me! Stop poisoning me! Stop pressuring me! Please stop or I will suffocate with blood clots, with plagues and my walls are hurting me, my muscles aching hard! I beg you to give me a break! My arteries might be blocked, might be stuck bad. I need to survive so that you can survive! I need to work so that you too can work! I need to flow so that you can live...
I need to be fed with CoQ 10, protein, anti-oxidants and some trace vitamins and minerals. I need to be exercised regularly, I need no drugs nor medicines... I demand enough rest, oxygen and my relevant nutrients or 'We' will shrink and die together!
to be continued...
Saturday, May 3, 2008
Heart surgery or heart problems? Depression?
Our heart is that remarkable piece of muscle that has the strength to pump our blood without fail eversince 3 weeks we were conceived in our mother's womb till now.
Heart surgery certainly brings on depression, and depression can worsen our condition of our heart. Here it seems the body and our emotion is directly linked. Stress, worries and sleep disorders will affect one's emotion. They can be quite memory inhibiting and are more likely to be present in the control group, as a lack of mental stimulation can increase self doubt, decrease confidence and cause a form of panic.
Notably beta blockers , the common drugs taken by heart patients occasionally cause mood changes or depression. Heart disease, bypass surgery and mood are therefore linked. One of the few certainties is that depression after surgery is more common in people who had previous episodes of the disorder.
Some experts believe that alterations to the normal circulation and blood pressure during bypass surgery, or small clots that form during the operation, may damage the brain, at least temporarily.
A more likely explanation is that the onset of heart symptoms -- whether or not surgery is involved -- is often a patient's first serious brush with death. For many, it requires redefining oneself, marks the start of lifelong medicine-taking and makes ordinary activity seem dangerous, at least for a while.
The disruptions caused even by successful treatment can have significant effects on the way a person thinks, remembers, feels and acts. The near brush with death certainly awakes acute realization of the importance of staying alive healthy and the will to survive it.
If depression is just for a time being, then work out a health management programme. For the better not worst! For prevention and precaution. A lesson well learnt is a good sign of prevention! It is never too late!
Heart surgery certainly brings on depression, and depression can worsen our condition of our heart. Here it seems the body and our emotion is directly linked. Stress, worries and sleep disorders will affect one's emotion. They can be quite memory inhibiting and are more likely to be present in the control group, as a lack of mental stimulation can increase self doubt, decrease confidence and cause a form of panic.
Notably beta blockers , the common drugs taken by heart patients occasionally cause mood changes or depression. Heart disease, bypass surgery and mood are therefore linked. One of the few certainties is that depression after surgery is more common in people who had previous episodes of the disorder.
Some experts believe that alterations to the normal circulation and blood pressure during bypass surgery, or small clots that form during the operation, may damage the brain, at least temporarily.
A more likely explanation is that the onset of heart symptoms -- whether or not surgery is involved -- is often a patient's first serious brush with death. For many, it requires redefining oneself, marks the start of lifelong medicine-taking and makes ordinary activity seem dangerous, at least for a while.
The disruptions caused even by successful treatment can have significant effects on the way a person thinks, remembers, feels and acts. The near brush with death certainly awakes acute realization of the importance of staying alive healthy and the will to survive it.
If depression is just for a time being, then work out a health management programme. For the better not worst! For prevention and precaution. A lesson well learnt is a good sign of prevention! It is never too late!
Never stop trying! Just go on... move on...
Like the waves of the ocean, I never stop trying...
Like the moving of wings of birds in flight, I never stop trying...
Obstacles are there to strengthen my aspiration...
I will never stop trying...
What is procrastination or discouragement?
I never heed them, I never stop going on...
What is suffering or death approaching?
I never heed them, I never stop going on...
I welcome the energy of patience..
I welcome the energy of endurance...
I welcome the energy of perseverance...
I am persistent and will be in balance...
Everyday is a FIGHT ADVERSITY!
Life isn't about escaping without any scratches; it's tough, but it's the toughness that makes it worth living. We were made to face adversity, to stand up against the chaos and bring order to it. Those who are set out to play it safe and demand that other people make their lives easier are kidding themselves.
Heard about the importance of AQ? Adversity Quotient...
What is AQ?
AQ Adversity Quotient'
No matter what happened, we have to pass all adversities. We ought to pass all small and big tests alike.'
Who is without adversity?
Where is there no rain or pain?
To be able to face or deal with negatives is really a skill that all should master! Without AQ, a rich, young, successful professional, when jilted will still jump from the tallest building to end his life. That would be the end of the story. He couldn't manage his emotion nor could he pass his adversity test!
No journey of life is just a stretch of smooth and straight road. No one's life is made of honey and milk only. No one lives in beds of roses as one expect of life.
Know this story? It is about eating a chicken. Before one can have chicken meat to eat, ever gave a second thought of what has been done to the chicken before we can eat them? The bird have to be breed, caught, slaughtered, feathers plucked and chopped, then cooked and meats eaten without the bones!
Can we just eat the chicken raw like some other animals? Of course, not. Thus life is never without small tasks or challenges. Fear it, you fail, Run away, it follows you. Catch it, it still stays!
The only choice left is to have these small tasks solved or done with. Only then we can enjoy the fruits. Face all brave and fearless. We too gain valuable life experiences, learning and improving oneself as we go.
Our life journey is made more meaningful when spiced with challenges and tasks. It will strengthen our character and be fearless to further challenges in life. The skill in passing all these small and big tasks are expected of all of us.
Even when one possesses IQ, EQ, TQ, DQ, CQ or other Qs, lack of AQ makes things difficult and meaningless. This setback will hinder a person's success and he will have no strength or skill to deal with negatives of life. All wise men are said to be touched with certain levels of adversities of life. Master this skill and pass the test with doctorate!
Adversities come in the form of misfortunes, poor health, jilts, incurable sickness, accidents, divorces, separations, unstable marriage, miscarriages, retrenchments, handicaps, unemployment, poverty, debts, deaths, failures, bankruptcies, lost of fame and many uncountable defects of life.
Can we stand firm and steady at our feet to face them? To face them without tears or fears? Do we all have this ability or capability to pass these tests? How can one possess such AQ?
Be courageous and strong, face them, pass them, learn from them, treasure these valuable teachers of life. Adversities make one realize the importance of TIME and treasure TIME! And most important of all is 'learn to love, be loved and share our love and pass on LOVE... True love never die....'
Remember 'Everyday is a fight adversity!'
AQ Adversity Quotient'
No matter what happened, we have to pass all adversities. We ought to pass all small and big tests alike.'
Who is without adversity?
Where is there no rain or pain?
To be able to face or deal with negatives is really a skill that all should master! Without AQ, a rich, young, successful professional, when jilted will still jump from the tallest building to end his life. That would be the end of the story. He couldn't manage his emotion nor could he pass his adversity test!
No journey of life is just a stretch of smooth and straight road. No one's life is made of honey and milk only. No one lives in beds of roses as one expect of life.
Know this story? It is about eating a chicken. Before one can have chicken meat to eat, ever gave a second thought of what has been done to the chicken before we can eat them? The bird have to be breed, caught, slaughtered, feathers plucked and chopped, then cooked and meats eaten without the bones!
Can we just eat the chicken raw like some other animals? Of course, not. Thus life is never without small tasks or challenges. Fear it, you fail, Run away, it follows you. Catch it, it still stays!
The only choice left is to have these small tasks solved or done with. Only then we can enjoy the fruits. Face all brave and fearless. We too gain valuable life experiences, learning and improving oneself as we go.
Our life journey is made more meaningful when spiced with challenges and tasks. It will strengthen our character and be fearless to further challenges in life. The skill in passing all these small and big tasks are expected of all of us.
Even when one possesses IQ, EQ, TQ, DQ, CQ or other Qs, lack of AQ makes things difficult and meaningless. This setback will hinder a person's success and he will have no strength or skill to deal with negatives of life. All wise men are said to be touched with certain levels of adversities of life. Master this skill and pass the test with doctorate!
Adversities come in the form of misfortunes, poor health, jilts, incurable sickness, accidents, divorces, separations, unstable marriage, miscarriages, retrenchments, handicaps, unemployment, poverty, debts, deaths, failures, bankruptcies, lost of fame and many uncountable defects of life.
Can we stand firm and steady at our feet to face them? To face them without tears or fears? Do we all have this ability or capability to pass these tests? How can one possess such AQ?
Be courageous and strong, face them, pass them, learn from them, treasure these valuable teachers of life. Adversities make one realize the importance of TIME and treasure TIME! And most important of all is 'learn to love, be loved and share our love and pass on LOVE... True love never die....'
Remember 'Everyday is a fight adversity!'
Monday, April 28, 2008
The 2 tables... for a new friend I came across today... a smile that bridged the friendship...
One table is recently bought.
It looks brand new, it is in perfect condition.
The other table is already 15 years old.
It doesn't look good. It needs repair, needs
some polish, needs some adjustment.
Which table do you think will last longer?
A more appropriate answer can be
the first table which is new and in good condition.
The other table which has served
15 years might be the loser, perhaps.
But what is there to do with our health?
The answer is not a definite answer
that the first table will last longer.
In the case of destruction, an axe
can bring the new table into pieces.
If one bang on the table, kicked it,
poured acid or burn it, the new table
will also be destroyed.
Likewise, the other table when given
the proper repair, some polish,
proper care will last longer.
It depends on how we treat these 2 tables.
Likewise, a healthy people if indulged in bad
and destructive habits will kill him over-night.
But a someone who is kind to himself,
treat himself well, take extra care, understands
himself well, manages his health well will prolong his life.
Please remember this, my friend, Chris..
It looks brand new, it is in perfect condition.
The other table is already 15 years old.
It doesn't look good. It needs repair, needs
some polish, needs some adjustment.
Which table do you think will last longer?
A more appropriate answer can be
the first table which is new and in good condition.
The other table which has served
15 years might be the loser, perhaps.
But what is there to do with our health?
The answer is not a definite answer
that the first table will last longer.
In the case of destruction, an axe
can bring the new table into pieces.
If one bang on the table, kicked it,
poured acid or burn it, the new table
will also be destroyed.
Likewise, the other table when given
the proper repair, some polish,
proper care will last longer.
It depends on how we treat these 2 tables.
Likewise, a healthy people if indulged in bad
and destructive habits will kill him over-night.
But a someone who is kind to himself,
treat himself well, take extra care, understands
himself well, manages his health well will prolong his life.
Please remember this, my friend, Chris..
When there is health, there is hope, when there is hope, we can have everything...
It suddenly dawned me that I should write more on these everyday tips of getting healthier and happier. Very recently, I came to know of several health shocks that happened to some of my close friends and new friends. It has been a while that I haven't really blogged about body and mind health.
Many of us took our body's health for granted. Or most of us take for granted that our heart will beat for us, our lungs filtering our air, our kidney filtering our blood, our liver, our bladder and many others. We over-ate, we over-worked, we over-stressed, we over-looked, we over-slept, we over-drank.... Too much 'over...' just gone too far away from the law of nature.
What have we done? Are we greedy? Are we too serious? Are we not doing our jobs well? We did set good models, good examples to many, but what has happened to our physical body? Something has definitely gone wrong.
The day is 12 hours broad daylight, 12 hours dark. The invention of bulbs, lights have added to our working hours. Actually we cannot see in the dark. Our energy levels are a little down, meaning for us to rest and be rested. But deadlines, responsibilities, crazy goals, unrealistic breakthroughs have unknowingly forced us to become supermen and superwomen. But are we?
Can we?
The spirit of winning, the spirit of being the best, the aspiration to becoming wealthy, the dream of becoming a role-player , the will to set records, to succeed, to move up the ladder of success, to rule, to have power have all led us astray, beyond and crawling over the limits.
We can if we think we can. Of course, one is aware of the potentials inside us. But too many people have stretched their energies too hard. Too many people are stretching the hands of the clock. Too many people have stretched their gray matters too hard, forgetting that our body system needs to be rested, to be relaxed, to be fed only the necessary, to be cleansed, to be exercised, to be given proper food and fluids.
Atlas, the body eventually cries out to be attended to! The body refuse to work! The body refuse to heed your command! The body is boycotting you! Something is out of balance... and I always call it dis-ease. Our body is 'not at ease' thus now complaining.... Yet part of our mind screamed to be attended to! Part of our mind says 'No!' Part of our mind says, "It will not happen to me!"
Poor guys, poor poor child... Nothing is without a cause. There is no smoke when there is no fire. Our body is screaming to our mind to STOP! Our body is screaming to our mind to "STOP POISONING!' Our body or later our mind is screaming to our body to FIGHT! Sad to say, something is lost.... something is missing... something is not working! Something has gone wrong!
Well, be aware that our body needs to be rested, to be cleansed, to be fed the appropriate food and drinks, to be given the right kick. What is so difficult about it? Why should we be so harsh on our body? Why haven't we allow ourselves to rest and be relaxed!
Yes, be aware that we ourselves are wholly responsible for our body health. We are what we eat! We are what we think we are! Ask this question, are we in harmony with Mother Nature? Are we in balance with Mother Nature? Are we principle-centered?
Are we on the right track? Are we healthy body, mind, emotion and spirit? Stop and be aware of the balance and harmony of Mother Nature! Think twice.... think wise...
Many of us took our body's health for granted. Or most of us take for granted that our heart will beat for us, our lungs filtering our air, our kidney filtering our blood, our liver, our bladder and many others. We over-ate, we over-worked, we over-stressed, we over-looked, we over-slept, we over-drank.... Too much 'over...' just gone too far away from the law of nature.
What have we done? Are we greedy? Are we too serious? Are we not doing our jobs well? We did set good models, good examples to many, but what has happened to our physical body? Something has definitely gone wrong.
The day is 12 hours broad daylight, 12 hours dark. The invention of bulbs, lights have added to our working hours. Actually we cannot see in the dark. Our energy levels are a little down, meaning for us to rest and be rested. But deadlines, responsibilities, crazy goals, unrealistic breakthroughs have unknowingly forced us to become supermen and superwomen. But are we?
Can we?
The spirit of winning, the spirit of being the best, the aspiration to becoming wealthy, the dream of becoming a role-player , the will to set records, to succeed, to move up the ladder of success, to rule, to have power have all led us astray, beyond and crawling over the limits.
We can if we think we can. Of course, one is aware of the potentials inside us. But too many people have stretched their energies too hard. Too many people are stretching the hands of the clock. Too many people have stretched their gray matters too hard, forgetting that our body system needs to be rested, to be relaxed, to be fed only the necessary, to be cleansed, to be exercised, to be given proper food and fluids.
Atlas, the body eventually cries out to be attended to! The body refuse to work! The body refuse to heed your command! The body is boycotting you! Something is out of balance... and I always call it dis-ease. Our body is 'not at ease' thus now complaining.... Yet part of our mind screamed to be attended to! Part of our mind says 'No!' Part of our mind says, "It will not happen to me!"
Poor guys, poor poor child... Nothing is without a cause. There is no smoke when there is no fire. Our body is screaming to our mind to STOP! Our body is screaming to our mind to "STOP POISONING!' Our body or later our mind is screaming to our body to FIGHT! Sad to say, something is lost.... something is missing... something is not working! Something has gone wrong!
Well, be aware that our body needs to be rested, to be cleansed, to be fed the appropriate food and drinks, to be given the right kick. What is so difficult about it? Why should we be so harsh on our body? Why haven't we allow ourselves to rest and be relaxed!
Yes, be aware that we ourselves are wholly responsible for our body health. We are what we eat! We are what we think we are! Ask this question, are we in harmony with Mother Nature? Are we in balance with Mother Nature? Are we principle-centered?
Are we on the right track? Are we healthy body, mind, emotion and spirit? Stop and be aware of the balance and harmony of Mother Nature! Think twice.... think wise...
Stir-fried mixed vegetables for lunch? Just a plate of these wonderful vegetables will do...
A plate of stir-fried 5 colored vegetable with a little ginger and cornstarch will be extremely good for dieters and all those health-conscious. This plate contains high fiber and different colored vegetable provides variety in nutrients that will boost our health. Cook it waterless and without too much seasoning. A dash of iodized salt will do. Don't cook it too salty. Vegetables when cooked too salty will be difficult to taste the original natural goodness of the greens..
What do you eat for lunch? Popia?
I wonder if some of you are also popia lovers... go for vegetable filled popia.. It is not only delicious but also nutritious. Avoid frying, can just steam and then just eat your full... This is a healthy food. Suggested fillings can be mengkuang, taugeh, green spring onions, sweet cabbage, carrots, chillies, long beans or some prawns.
Friday, April 25, 2008
You fear the presence of God, and I fear your presence without Him...
You fear the presence of God, and I fear your presence without Him.
8 Precious Gifts...
1) THE GIFT OF LISTENING...
But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.
2) THE GIFT OF AFFECTION...
Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.
3) THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER...
Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you."
4) THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE...
It can be a simple "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.
5) THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT.. .
A simple and sincere, "You look great in red," "You did a super job" or "That was a wonderful meal" can make someone's day.
6) THE GIFT OF A FAVOR...
Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.
7) THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE...
There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.
8) THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION. ..
The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it's not that hard to say, "Hello" or "Thank you."
from a divine source
The language of our heart should be expressed through sympathy, kindness, service, love and brotherliness...
You should not attach so much
importance to the language you speak.
It is the meaning that is important,
the feelings you express, the behavior you adopt.
The language of the heart is expressed
through sympathy, kindness, service, love, brotherliness.
That is the language that really matters;
that language can be understood by every one.
from a divine source
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
The Creator shall teach us the perfect way of life, a life of pure, unconditional love...
The Creator shall teach you the perfect way of life..
a life of pure, unconditional love.
The Creator alone test you...then again in that test
the Creator alone shall help you to succeed.
Why should one fear tribulations and trials?
Be aware of truth alone and ignore the calls of nature's destruction...
The Creator, Himself shall bear many pains,
so that you can learn to live
so that you can learn to live
with the awareness of truth alone
and ignore the calls of nature's destruction.
Our Creator does not change His mind, He changes our ways with His examples..
Our Creator does not change His mind,
He changes your ways with His examples...
Be ever in the consciousness that you are but the shadow of our Creator, His image...
Be ever in the consciousness that you are
but the shadow of our Creator, His image.
Then, no harm can hamper you.
Our Creator walks along the royal road of Truth;
the shadow, holding on to Him, by the feet,
falls on hollow and hill, fire and water, dirt and dust.
So, if you hold on to the feet of the Lord,
you can be as unaffected as the shadow,
by the ups and downs of life.
How wonderfully one MUST feel,
to understand that our Lord loves us so,
relax.... and feel His presence, and peace be with all of us.
but the shadow of our Creator, His image.
Then, no harm can hamper you.
Our Creator walks along the royal road of Truth;
the shadow, holding on to Him, by the feet,
falls on hollow and hill, fire and water, dirt and dust.
So, if you hold on to the feet of the Lord,
you can be as unaffected as the shadow,
by the ups and downs of life.
How wonderfully one MUST feel,
to understand that our Lord loves us so,
relax.... and feel His presence, and peace be with all of us.
Article 636... to have equanimity towards grief and joy.. is to be emotionally steady
When a plane flies across the sky,
it leaves no mark on it, no streak that lasts,
no furrow or pothole that interferes with further traffic.
So too, witness all the feelings and emotions
as they cross your mind, but, do not allow them
to make an impression on you.
This can be done by inquiry, by quiet reasoning
within oneself, more than by listening to lectures or study of books.
from a divine source
it leaves no mark on it, no streak that lasts,
no furrow or pothole that interferes with further traffic.
So too, witness all the feelings and emotions
as they cross your mind, but, do not allow them
to make an impression on you.
This can be done by inquiry, by quiet reasoning
within oneself, more than by listening to lectures or study of books.
from a divine source
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Posting 635... How can we truly raise our standard of living?
The educational system must be based on the four principles
of Truth, Righteousness, Peace and Love. But, this has not happened.
Therefore, we find it burdened with problems.
It is full of conflict and confusion. Humility, detachment, discrimination, eagerness to serve others, reverence, renunciation -
It is full of conflict and confusion. Humility, detachment, discrimination, eagerness to serve others, reverence, renunciation -
such virtues are absent among the educated.
No one is prepared to give up; every one is anxious to grab.
A garland can be made only when we have flowers, thread and needle.
A system of education needs intelligence (flowers), devotion (thread)
and the spirit of renunciation and service (needle) to become beneficial.
Raising the standard of living must also mean raising ethical,
moral and spiritual standards. Then only can education lead
to progress in human values and harmony in social life.
from a divine source
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Moderate food intake is the best precaution for a healthy life...
Simply because tasty food is available
and is being offered, one is tempted to overeat.
We have air all around us, but we do
not breathe in more than we need.
The lake is full, but we drink only
as much as the thirst craves for.
But overeating has become a social evil, fashionable habit.
The stomach cries out, 'Enough,' but the tongue insists on more,
and man becomes the helpless target of disease.
He suffers from corpulence, high blood pressure and diabetes.
Moderate food is the best precaution for a healthy life.
from a divine source
It is foolishness to brood over mishaps and mistakes once committed and punish yourself for them...
It is foolishness to brood over mishaps and mistakes once committed and punish yourself for them. What is good of ill-treating the body for the sake of correcting the mind.
6 basic enemies of man - lust, hatred, delusion, greed, envy and pride...
The mind is subject to varying moods -
sorrow or joy, anger or fear, love or hate.
For all the diseases arising from the mind,
the basic causes are two - (attachment and aversion).
The mind is filled with these twofold feelings.
Consequently, it tends to forget its basic human nature.
The mind in this state considers the six basic enemies of man -
lust, hatred, delusion, greed, envy and pride - as virtues.
These six vices can poison a person's entire being.
He then forgets his inherent divinity and ceases to be human;
he is a victim of infamy.
But a person filled with good feelings enjoys peace and happiness.
from a divine source
Fill the world with love...
There is no discipline equal to service
for smothering the ego and filling the heart with genuine joy.
To condemn service as demeaning or inferior is to forgo these benefits.
A wave of service, if it were to sweep over all lands,
catching everyone in its enthusiasm, it would be able
to wipe out the mounds of hatred, malice and greed
that infest the world. Attune your hearts so that
they will vibrate in sympathy with the woes of your fellowmen.
Fill the world with love.
Never brood over the past when grief overpowers...
Never brood over the past; when grief overpowers,
you do not recollect similar incidents in your past experience
and add to the sum of your grief; recollect rather incidents
when grief did not knock at your door, but you were happy instead.
Draw consolation and strength from such memories
and raise yourself above the surging waters of sorrow.
from a divine source
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